Sextortion scam: don't pay — here's what to do
Editorially reviewed · Last updated July 21, 2026
Yes — this is a scam. Don't pay, and take a breath: the “we recorded you” email is a mass-sent bluff — and if someone really has images of you, you are not in trouble and you are not alone.
Other versions you might get: The other version is real and crueler: someone you met on a dating app, social media, or a game builds trust, trades photos, then demands money to keep yours private. The FBI's IC3 warns this version usually starts as a mutual, friendly contact that moves to another messaging app before the blackmail turns. If that's you — especially if you're a teenager — you are the victim of a crime, not the person in trouble. Don't pay, stop responding, save the messages, and use the steps below.
Word-for-word versions going around
Each of these is a real email, quoted exactly as people received it. If yours matches one — even loosely — it’s the same scam.
“I am aware one of your passphrase: password. Lets get directly to point. Not a single person has compensated me to investigate about you. You do not know me and you are probably wondering why you're getting this e mail?”
Documented by Electronic Frontier Foundation · July 2026 “I know about the secret you are keeping from your wife and everyone else. You can ignore this letter, or pay me a $8600 confidentiality fee in Bitcoin”
Documented by Federal Trade Commission · July 2026
What to do right now
- Don't pay, don't reply, don't negotiate. For the bluff email there is no video, and in real cases the FBI's IC3 tells victims to stop all interaction with the extortionist — paying or complying invites more demands, not fewer.
- If the email showed a real password, fix that today. Change it everywhere you still use it, turn on two-factor authentication, and check your exposure at haveibeenpwned.com. That password came from a breach — it's the whole trick.
- If someone has real images of you: you are not in trouble, and this is not your fault. Save the messages and profile (screenshots are evidence), then block. If you're under 18 — or the images are from when you were — Take It Down, NCMEC's free, anonymous service, can help get them removed or blocked on participating platforms without the images ever leaving your device. Tell a parent or another adult you trust; carrying this alone is what the scammer is counting on.
- Report it. File at ic3.gov — the FBI's own message to victims is not to be embarrassed or afraid to contact law enforcement — and at reportfraud.ftc.gov. Reporting is confidential, and you won't be blamed for anything you sent.
- Be wary of “helpers” who charge. The FBI warns about companies that charge sextortion victims steep fees for “assistance” — law enforcement and NCMEC help for free.
How to make sure it never bites you
Bluff emails find you because your address and an old password sit in breach dumps sold by the batch — clean up reused passwords and the threat evaporates. The romance version preys on isolation, and its antidote is the same one that ends it: one trusted person who knows. Either way, lock down your accounts and shrink what's out there about you: how to protect yourself.
Stop the next one at the source
You got this because your details are on lists that get bought, sold, and leaked. You can't unspill that, but you can make it useless to a scammer. Start with the free steps — they do most of the work.
- Freeze your credit — free at all three bureausStops anyone opening a new account in your name. Unfreeze in minutes when you need to.
- Report it and get a recovery plan at IdentityTheft.govThe FTC walks you through exactly what to do next, for free.
If you'd rather have it watched for you, an identity-protection service monitors your accounts, SSN, and the dark web, warns you the moment something new appears, and helps you recover if someone gets through.
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Frequently asked
The email has my real password. Doesn't that mean they hacked my webcam?
Should I pay to make it go away?
I'm a teenager and someone I met online is threatening to share my photos. What do I do?
Will they really send the video or photos to my family and friends?
How do I report sextortion?
Related scams
Sources
- FBI Warns about an Increase in Sextortion Complaints (PSA I-090221)— FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center
- Take It Down — free removal help for images of minors— National Center for Missing & Exploited Children
- How to avoid a Bitcoin blackmail scam— Federal Trade Commission
- Sextortion Scam: What to Do If You Get the Latest Phishing Spam Demanding Bitcoin— Electronic Frontier Foundation
Help protect someone else
Scams spread because people stay quiet about them. If this could have fooled you, it can fool someone you know — a parent, a friend, the family group chat. Passing it on is the easiest good thing you'll do today. It's safe to forward, and stands on its own as a record for a bank or the police.